I’ve worked with several therapists throughout my teens and adulthood. Some I felt deeply connected to (like my current therapist — shoutout to her!), and others I quickly realized weren’t the right fit because I just didn’t feel like they got me. So, yeah — I know what it’s like to end counselling (aka ghost your therapist). Not only does it happen, but I encourage it! Because it’s so important to be working with someone who you vibe with. 

One of the most transformative experiences for me was doing couples counselling with my partner. That work is a big part of why I was drawn to relationship work within my practice. I saw firsthand how powerful human connection, understanding, and co-regulation could be. I also learned how much there is to discover about the ways we communicate, interpret, and make meaning in our relationships. Couples work helped make the unknown known — and it continues to be the foundation of my own relationship.

Through my ups and downs in therapy, I came to understand that therapy isn’t about “fixing” anyone. Instead, it’s about creating space for growth, healing, connection, and personal insight. Sometimes therapy gives us direction and momentum; other times, the benefit is simply being in a relationship where you’re met with unwavering care. It can also mean being gently challenged, encouraged to see alternative possibilities, or invited to explore parts of yourself that you’ve hidden or neglected. At the end of the day, the work depends on you.